Several years ago a good friend gave me some advice that his dad passed along to him. He told me that anytime something bad happened to count to 10 and breathe deep. After counting to 10 ask yourself, "Will this bother me 10 years from now?"and if the answer is no let go of whatever it is that's bothering you. I have used this advice countless times since my friend, Dustin, shared it with me. It has often helped me put things in perspective especially when I overreact to something which really isn't important in the long run.
A week ago I received the unfortunate news that Dustin unexpectedly passed away. He was 31 and it's that simple fact which makes his loss especially difficult.
As much as I'd like to, I can't claim Dustin as a close friend because I know the kind of friends he has. His friends are more like brothers. I've never seen such a tight-knit group of guys before. The thought of how difficult a time his family, in all it's parts, must be going through makes me very sad. I don't know how I would cope if I lost someone so close to me.
Dustin was such a good person all the way to his core. He was always looking out for his family and friends. He often took a back seat to the needs of others. As his
obituary so perfectly stated,
He was the "rock" for all who knew him. I think it's safe to say that Dustin left a positive mark on anyone who was lucky enough to know him. He had a passion for life, and he seemed to me to be the eternal optimist. I'm very fortunate to have known him. My memories of him are happy ones. It was practically impossible to be anything but happy when you were around him.

Life does not give any of us guarantees. We are fortunate for every day we're able to live, for every chance we get to make a new memory, to reach a milestone, or to tell our family and friends that we love them.
To my family and friends, "
I love each and every one of you. I know I'm terrible about keeping in touch on a more personal level than this blog, but please know that it's my attempt to reach out and involve all of you in my family's lives as best I can."In the words of John Wayne, "Tomorrow is the most important thing in life...it puts itself in our hands and hopes we've learned something from yesterday."